You will win every time you stay positive in a negative situation

The difference is what we see and how we interpret it

When was the last time you experienced a negative situation? Remember the event as best you can and think about how you responded. Were you trapped in negativity or were you composed? Depending on the event, can you see how worry and anxiety drive you to despair? It’s natural to respond negatively when a condition gets out of control, particularly when we least expect it. A tirade of negative thoughts arises and we find ourselves unable to free ourselves from it. I want to assure you that this is normal due to the inherent negativity bias of the mind. It is an evolutionary mechanism that has helped humanity evolve for thousands of centuries. However, it becomes a danger when it acts against us.

Each of us has experienced a negative situation at some point. Sadly, some people experience them more than others and get caught up in the thought of victimization. Perception is everything because what you seek, you will find. The power of free will means that we can perceive something as bad in a good situation and complain about it. Someone else will find the good in a negative situation and use it to their advantage. The important thing is how we interpret what we see. For example, I was recently reading reviews of my books on Amazon and noticed that someone had left me a one-star review on my book, Awaken Your Authentic Self. If you buy books on Amazon, you will be familiar with a feature called Look Inside. This allows the user to preview the content of the book before purchasing it. The reviewer wrongly attributed this feature that it wasn’t working as something I was involved in.

To be clear, this is Amazon’s domain as they create, manage and host their own website. As an author, my publisher lists the book on Amazon and I have no involvement in the sale or management of its content. I felt a rush of negative emotions when I read the review as there was little I could do to resolve it. The point I’m trying to make is that sometimes things happen that are out of our control and even though we are innocent, we still have a choice of how to respond. Getting caught up in negativity is of little use because it will not change the outcome. Even if I get angry, I am allowing external conditions to dictate my happiness.

Life is neither fair nor unfair

Can you identify with this narrative in your own life? Has something similar happened where you were innocent and even though you tried to rectify the situation, it was of little help? This is when we can succumb to negativity because we have been wronged. However, we have a choice and it may not be the easiest to do, but it is the best option for our peace of mind. Anger and negativity reinforce a desperate mindset because we feel the transgression is being perpetrated on purpose. Listen, sometimes bad things happen to good people. Likewise, people believe that life is unfair. Life is neither fair nor unfair; it keeps beating no matter how hard you try to change its nature. I do not mean that we are insignificant in the scheme of things. Rather, things are destined to happen, and it is not the event itself that fuels our suffering, but the choice of our response that dictates whether we remain at peace or get caught in the storm. Are you comfortable with this idea that perceiving life as fair or unfair does not help you much in difficult times? The question we must ask ourselves is: What am I called to know about this situation? How can I evolve from what is happening?

Therefore, you win every time you stay positive in a negative situation because life will lead us to despair if given the chance. Negativity is a stone’s throw away. Everyone will tell you how difficult life can be, but rarely do we hear life stories full of joy and happiness. Even comments on social media today have become an outlet for moral outrage and social injustice. But this does not help anyone, other than driving us to despair because we are drawn into this fictitious sense of injustice in the world. Without a doubt, what you read enough will surely create your reality and, for some, social networks are their only information platform. I knew of a client whose only source of information was Facebook, so all his news and information were directed to his area of ​​interest. He did not read books, but preferred Facebook as a source of knowledge, sadly most of it was negative. With this in mind, I would like you to think about the above example of a recent negative event in your life. Ask yourself the questions I asked in the penultimate paragraph and record what comes up. It is by staying positive in a negative situation that we win the day and overcome the negativity of the world. What will you choose?