‘Spilling Your Guts’ – Why You Should NEVER Do This If You Want Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Breaking up is hard. No doubt about that. Being told by the girl you love that she no longer wants to be with you is one of the greatest emotional pains you can experience in life. Not many things can put you in a state of total mental disorientation like a breakup can. Especially if you had no idea it was coming.

If the breakup just happened, take comfort in knowing that just because you broke up doesn’t necessarily mean it’s over. People make mistakes all the time. Just give her some space, don’t contact her at all, and chances are she’ll figure out that you’re the one she wants to be with. Also, I bet you’ve heard of people breaking up and getting back together quite often. Sometimes it’s just a cycle of relationships going through.

However, if it’s been some time and you feel yourself beginning to buckle under the emotional pressure, there are steps we need to take to make sure you don’t do something you’ll end up regretting. The next time you feel the need to take drastic measures out of desperation, remember this phrase:

Control your emotions… control the outcome of the breakup.

It happens too often. They dumped a guy and instead of acting cool like he’s supposed to, he calls, texts and harasses his ex in an effort to get her to give him another chance. Instead of staying strong, he gives in to all the strong emotions playing in his brain and, as a result, probably RUINS any chance he had of getting her back.

Your best bet is to do everything you can to stay positive by spending time with friends and improving your well-being. Drowning in self-pity, isolation, and all the stuff in your fridge will leave you FAT, emotionally depressed, and making all the wrong moves. That won’t help you get your girl back!

But how can you control your emotions?

Think of it this way… What usually happens right before you feel overwhelmed by emotion? It most likely starts with a thought, right? Or maybe even a personal belonging that bears memory of the two of you? I’d say get rid of that personal belonging ASAP. If it’s something that can’t be deleted, find some way to attach a new memory to that membership.

Now let’s say you find yourself drifting in your thoughts… what should you do? Take those thoughts immediately and replace them with others by applying your focus elsewhere. Like reading a book, going to the gym, or just being constructive in general with your time. Surround yourself with things or people (preferably people) that make you feel good. You must do everything you can to quell harmful emotions before they plunge you into depression.

Just control your mind and think positive. If you don’t, I promise you… negative influences will. And that means you can say goodbye to your girlfriend forever.