How to save your marriage: 10 proven tips

With the divorce rate on the rise, many people are concerned about saving their marriage. It is not unusual to find people who have chosen not to marry and simply decided to cohabit because they fear that getting married alone makes them vulnerable to divorce. Being married, these questions have bothered me a lot, but I was determined to find a way to divorce my marriage. Here are some tips to do it.

1. Communication is key: Say exactly what’s on your mind and don’t let others guess. It’s better to tell someone exactly what she wants them to know, rather than assume she knows, and that even applies to sex. Also keep in mind the time. Give them some time to eat and rest after a tiring day at work before bringing up any problems. It’s usually best not to talk about problems after 9 p.m.

2. Be quick to apologize whether you’re right or wrong. Being at peace and in harmony is more important than being right.

3. Put your spouse’s interests before your own. Do to others what you would like them to do to you. For example, make meals first to please them. Cook how they like it and what they like Not necessarily how you like it. Even if it means cooking two meals, it’s worth the effort to maintain your marriage.

4. Create memories together. Find common interests and spend some time on them weekly. Maybe a weekly dinner or go to the movies just the two of you. Just find time to be alone together at least once a week to keep the flame burning.

5. Do your best to stay attractive, whether at home or on the go. Be clean, well dressed and well groomed. Remember what attracted you to each other in the first place and keep it up. Many people make the mistake of neglecting their appearance after marriage. That’s a big marriage killer.

6. Be committed to your marriage. A good marriage takes time and hard work. Don’t look for excuses to give up on your marriage, and don’t use children as an excuse to avoid your spouse. Also avoid using the D-word (divorce) as a threat every time something goes wrong.

7. Read marriage books and consult marriage counselors if necessary, but remember that no amount of advice or information you get will help unless you are completely determined to make your marriage successful by making it a priority.

8. Avoid nagging. No one likes a spouse who exasperates them. Say something once or twice and leave it at that.

9. Esteem each other above yourselves. Compliment your spouse both in public and in private. Men should open doors for their spouses and pull chairs over for them. Speak well of each other and never argue in front of the children.

10. If you want to be really bold, let lovemaking be more about pleasing your spouse than it is about getting pleasure for yourself. You’ll be amazed at the satisfaction you get from working to please your spouse.

This is not an exhaustive list of tips to save your marriage, but they have worked well for me and are a good starting point. They are useful not only for married couples but for anyone in a love relationship.