How to have a goodnight call that brings you closer

Saying goodnight never felt so good

Knowing how to say good night on a phone call will bring your relationship closer.

You can do as you have always done, speak as if you were a reporter, giving him a factual account of your day, when he asks how you are, how was your day, you can say as an example: “I went to the grocery store, I took the car to wash”, this and that as if reporting. Also, and as you have always done – you could continue doing what you are doing while you talk to him – continue doing the dishes, washing your face, putting away the clothes, getting ready for bed.

Instead, I suggest you STOP…

1. When you hear the phone ring – Stop what you’re doing

2. Pick up your cat, a stuffed animal, a plush blanket, something to pet

3. Go to your bed, sofa, comfortable chair – lie down is best, lie down/recline is what you need

4. Decompressing your heart

5. You respond Hiiiiiiiiii! – but if possible you say it from your vagina – somewhere deep in your body, as sensually as you can

6. He says Hello! And then he asks how are you?

7. You say: “Great, it’s great to hear your voice”

8. You wait: you do not try to complete the conversation, it may be difficult for you to do so

9. He says, “What’s new, what did you do today?”

10. This is where you don’t “report”, which would be like “I went to the store, talked to my daughter, paid some bills.”

11. Instead, like a poet, you say “It felt so good to be laughing with some friends” or maybe “the sun felt so good on my face when I went for a walk” – something using words of feeling

12. Say something

13. You bring the conversation into the present moment with something like this “It feels so peaceful outside.”

14. Say something.

15. You feel like the conversation is coming to an end

16. You close it with “I feel so relaxed and sleepy, I can’t wait to get between the sheets, I feel like I’m going to say goodnight and I’ll be dreaming about you.”

If he doesn’t say, “Maybe I’ll come over and meet you” right then, he’ll probably say, “I can’t wait to see you, is Saturday good for you?”

You can use modifications of this for daytime calls, texts, and emails.