Bridezilla Warning Signs: Subtle and Not So Subtle

There’s a girlfriend in every girlfriend, there was one in me when I got married, the only question is whether it’s controlled or not. The first step in controlling it is to recognize the warning signs of the bridal disaster that has been dubbed “Bridezilla.”

The reason any bride can go from sweet to freakish is simple: every bride cares about her wedding day. But like everything, her focus can go awry, and the young woman who just wanted to create a perfect celebration of the love she shares with her husband-to-be can turn against the people she loves, and before she knows it, she’s overlooked. the warning signs. and Bridezilla lifts the fearsome cup from her.

Some Bridezilla warning signs are subtle, giving the bride a flashing yellow light that the bride needs to slow down and regroup. A wise young woman will take the opportunity to put everything back into perspective, focusing on the people she loves who are working so hard to help her put on the celebration.

Other warning signs are anything but subtle. They are reality slapping you across the face announcing that you missed the subtle cues entirely and went straight for Bridezilla. If you see yourself in any of the warning signs in this category, it’s time to get on your knees and make it right, because the dirty little secret is that a bride ultimately ruins her own wedding.

Subtle Bridezilla Warning Signs:

A feeling that you are entitled to special treatment because it is your wedding. This, ultimately, is the basis for a good deal of Bridezilla’s behavior. Yes, it’s reasonable to want to enjoy the season, but when your mindset shifts from enjoying your engagement period to making it all about you, that’s the first subtle sign of danger from Bridezilla.

You spend hours going through your online wedding registry looking for what has been bought and what hasn’t. Or just expect lavish gifts or bridal showers.

Thinking about your wedding day 24/7 and/or obsessing over every detail. Often a good sign that this is happening is when you find yourself having trouble making decisions or questioning even your smallest decisions.

Online conversations with other girlfriends are becoming an obsession and taking hours of your time.

Don’t focus on the marriage you are trying to build. When you find yourself thinking more about the wedding than building the marriage you’re trying to celebrate, it’s time to reevaluate.

You discover that you expect perfection at your wedding more than a celebration with your loved ones.

Slapping yourself on the head Bridezilla Warning Signs:

A member of your wedding party has stepped aside due to your behavior. In reality, if someone has stepped aside, a wise bride will do a careful self-assessment to ensure that the reason given was not simply a graceful way out of an awkward situation.

You are dictating the grooming of your wedding party. There is a fine line between developing a theme for your wedding and being overbearing. If your topic includes details involving grooming issues, talk to your wedding party early (preferably when you ask them to be part of your wedding party) and ask, don’t tell. Ultimately, their grooming is their business, not yours.

Your groom-to-be is sick of hearing you talk about the wedding. Remember, everyone loves a party and it’s their wedding celebration as well as yours, so if the subject gets him off, chances are Bridezilla has reared its ugly head out of it.

Supervise the wedding professionals you have hired to provide services. If you’ve done your homework and hired based on quality, experience, and skill, you’ll only hurt your performance by trying to manage the details.

You realize you’re arguing with just about everyone, from members of your wedding party to your Aunt Gracie, your mother, and more. Can you say, “Bridezilla”?

Your friends start avoiding you because you won’t stop talking about the wedding, or worse, because you won’t stop complaining about your own bridesmaids.

Your hairstylist and manicurist spends hours with you and “still not right!” Take a step back, take a breath. Bridezilla just invaded your wedding day.

Rash due to a run on your nylons, a spill on a dress, or a broken nail. Save yourself a headache by purchasing or creating a wedding day survival kit ahead of time so you have no reason to let these things get to you.

You certainly want your wedding day to be memorable. But you want it to be memorable because you celebrated your new marriage with the man with whom you are building a healthy and happy relationship. You don’t want to join the throng of ex-girlfriends who have to look back on their wedding day and say that the only thing that was wrong with their wedding was “me.”

The good news is that you don’t have to. Ask a trusted sister (or another friend) to help you watch for Bridezilla’s warning signs. When one of you sees a sign of danger, trust them when they raise the red flag and take the time to refocus on what’s important: her husband and celebrate with your friends, quirks and all.