Are they cheating? Giveaways of issues that will help you find out

When the seed of doubt creeps into your mind it’s so hard to shake it, do you cheat? Deal? Infidelity? Beyond feelings of betrayal and anger, there is also guilt because you may not be safe and feel bad about having these feelings. The best way to work things out is to eliminate uncertainty. Determine if you are being realistic or paranoid. Find out for sure. What are they up to?

Because we humans are imperfect and generally not very good at hiding things, especially emotional things like relationships, there are usually signs that can be examined, recorded, and evaluated. Keeping careful records once you have a clue as to what’s going on will help you get to the bottom of things much faster. Over time you can tell when someone is cheating.

Changes in behavior are the greatest giveaways. If she suddenly doesn’t want you to use her cell phone or gets very defensive about emails or texts, then this is a big red flag. These days with our technological lives we tend to make contact electronically as the first step. The cell phone is our portal to the rest of the world. In a healthy and trusting relationship, there should be no problem with our partners using it or looking at the content. The same goes for email. Secrets may be explainable but they are suspect.

Another thing to keep in mind is leaving the room to receive calls and other forms of hidden communication. Because they will feel uncomfortable and guilty for cheating on you, an innocent question can result in a nasty reaction. Often it is the response rather than the original act that will give away the game.

Also beware of suddenly having to rush out and do something late at night, or working hours that don’t make sense. Time periods that seem suspiciously inexplicable should prompt further examination. It is very difficult to hide the separate hours that until recently would have been spent together. Bringing up the subject must obtain a reasonable explanation. If none is anticipated, bad news may be on the way.

There are many more ways to catch them in the act or get them to admit to cheating if it’s happening. There is no excuse for cheating. Affairs ruin lives and not just the people in the relationship. For many more tips and tricks, check out the links below.