Women’s fantasies are sexually explicit scenarios

A receptive woman’s use of fantasy means that her experiences do not fit any of the descriptions of sexual activity that we see portrayed in society. Sexual activity is usually social, but it is also depicted in graphic terms. When something happens in your head, it can be purely conceptual. This is probably the reason why women prefer to read erotic literature instead of looking at pictures.

A woman experiences orgasm by delving into her subconscious. She has to focus on the script that she remembers from previous sessions. Alternatively, her mind may be focused on the text of a book she is reading. She can’t be distracted even by a dripping faucet. She needs 100% concentration to arouse enough arousal to allow her to orgasm. Afterwards it is difficult for her to remember exactly what she felt exactly in preparation for the orgasm. It’s like trying to recall a half-forgotten dream.

While fantasizing, a woman’s mind focuses on some of her most intimate memories or ideas that she has heard about. They are concepts that reach the parts of the brain that are more instinctive than thinking. They can include the idea of ​​enduring pain, inflicting pain, being vulnerable, fearing attack, and the mystery of what another person can do to us. Many of these thoughts are like vague dreams and are not consciously recognized. They are the kind of thoughts that we never consciously admit to ourselves.

When we read we imagine the setting, the people and their emotions narrated by the author. But these images are not like focused photographic images. They are more like a collection of impressions or feelings when we dream. They are like echoes of the real world. The scene is presented in terms of the feelings and motivations of the people involved. This builds anticipation in a way that the books (but not the movies) do. The erotic fantasies a receptive woman uses to arouse herself are psychological, filled with anticipation and the idea of ​​others doing things to her. The action focuses on bondage, BDSM and penetration. Ultimately, the action of the fantasy intensifies her state of arousal so that the climax of the fantasy coincides with her orgasm.

Women who masturbate to orgasm rarely talk about the pleasure they enjoy. First of all, sensitive women are very embarrassed to admit the nature of their erotic fantasies. This quite naturally. Our fantasies represent aspects of sex that we find most exciting and taboo. Even men don’t readily accept the raw, explicit sexual imagery they need to focus on in order to orgasm. These are our most private and personal thoughts. Receptive women also appreciate that most other women react with self-righteous disgust whenever masturbation, clitoral stimulation, or sexual fantasies are mentioned.

Women are also reluctant to reveal their fantasies because they know that the scenarios they use for orgasm would be unpleasant in reality. Having a fantasy about a particular activity does not mean that a person actually wants to engage in that activity or would enjoy such an activity in reality. Nor does a fantasy represent an unconscious desire. This is part of the reason why women are reluctant to tell anyone, even a lover, about their fantasies.

Eroticism is a masculine representation of sex. Penetrative sex is exciting from the point of view of the penetrator. Penetrative sex is not arousing for the person who is penetrated by an erect penis (the recipient). So a woman needs to be able to psychologically identify with the male perspective in order to achieve orgasm. This is only possible when a woman immerses herself in a surreal and almost subconscious world in her head. In this world she can approach sexual situations from a male perspective and experience the kind of arousal that tumescence of the clitoral organ causes. Once the clitoral organ is tumescent, the woman can massage the internal organ to achieve orgasm.

The concept of penetration by a penis is key to achieving arousal. A woman cannot be the penetrator in real life, but she can use fantasy to psychologically put herself in the male position. A woman derives sexual satisfaction from the idea of ​​dominating or doing something to another person. Fantasy allows a woman to be the man who penetrates a lover and, at the same time, the woman who is penetrated. The women describe this technique as putting themselves in the role of director. This emulation of the man is implied rather than being an impersonation of a man in real life.

Fantasy is a mechanism for achieving orgasm rather than an activity a woman engages in on her own. Receptive women use erotic fantasies as a conscious psychological technique for the sole purpose of enjoying orgasm. A woman’s sense of liberation comes purely from the use of fantasy. Women have a limited menu of fantasies to choose from. This seems to be the result of a natural apathy towards making an effort to find erotic material. A woman may only have a handful of fantasies that she uses on a regular basis, some of which stem from when she started masturbating.

Given the nature of their fantasies, women may avoid masturbating, feeling that it is immoral. This is not like this. When we fantasize, we release the subconscious thoughts that are there, whether we consciously admit them or not. Women may use a constructed rape scenario (which lacks the real-world sense of rape) that allows a woman to take a passive role and focus on the psychology of the man deriving pleasure from her.

Reality and fantasy are further apart for women than for men… (Rachel Swift 1999)