The seven kingdoms of love

The first kingdom of love: the physical kingdom

I love you. I love your look. I have to have you in my life. I can not live without you. I am desperate for you. You are everything I ever dreamed of and more. I am turned on by you and therefore I cannot live without you. You are perfect. I am yours and you are mine. You are not at fault. I can’t think of any reason why our love won’t last. I want to be your owner, marry you, own it. I lay down my life for you. I’m in love with you.

I know this is very loaded. I’m blinded by this love I will throw away my dreams, my passions and my ambitions just to be with you. I also know, as people have warned me, that this love, this passion, this fire is unsustainable, but I am blind. I’m blinded by my excitement and the chemistry that runs through my veins. I’ve been warned, but my life was hell before I met you, and now it’s heaven. Oh, even just for this day, this love, this fire, this unconsciousness, it’s worth it.

Passion is physical, impulses uncontrollable. The problem is, it can’t last, life breaks when it breaks and there’s really no way around it. This is the lowest and primary level of love, and subsequently the most extreme.

The second kingdom of love: my mind

I love you. I think like you. Our dreams are so similar. I believe in what you believe and I think in what you think. I know that we are correct in our way of life. We are on common ground, we live by this code and this code is ours. We agree, we like the same paintings, we like the same vacations. We are of the same opinion, we are in love.

I’ve told people that they should be just like you. They must be good and they must be happy. I have told my siblings, friends and family what they should do. Now that I have met you, it is not necessary, because we agree. We agree that the world should be as we dream.

This level of love is so intellectual. It is based on ideals. If you fit my image, I love you, if not, I hate you. This is religious love. Fair and conditional. There are so many expectations at this level that one of the two partners has to be submissive and therefore inevitably become resentful. This is the typical, Western, good-citizen relationship. A perfect lie.

The third kingdom of love: emotion

I love you. I cry at the thought of you. I write you these love poems; poems that express this romance, this beauty, this feeling so deep within me. From the moment I met you I knew I loved you. I felt it deep in my heart. I’m sad without you, I’m angry if I can’t be with you. I feel good with you, you make me happy, I want you close to me all the time because it makes me feel so good, I need you in my life.

You are my sun, my morning, my every breath. You are the dew on my skin and the sun on my heart. I breathe you in, and these roses, this gift, this food, this wine, this touch on your shoulder, send chills down my spine. I have your photograph close to my heart and I celebrate you with joy. I’ll wait for your call.

Sorry for my reaction when you came home late. Sorry to be angry. I can’t help it. I feel so wonderful and so vulnerable. I feel you when I walk. Oh my love, may this feeling, this romance, last forever between us. I’m sorry for those mood swings. They are totally inexplicable. Oh my love, be mine forever.

The joy is uncontrollable, the surrender is complete, the love feels fused and moving. This level of love is fascinating. Two lovers will embrace and the romance is wonderful. Great vacations and a great idea, great romantic nights and more. However, emotion has no substance. The same emotion that leads a couple to this love is the same emotion that burns them or attracts them to others. Emotional people cannot maintain integrity. Emotions are environmental reactions. Never trust emotion. (or emotional people)

The fourth kingdom of love – The heart

I love you. Whether you come or go in my life, I love you. It does not matter if you are well or ill, for better, for worse, for richer or poorer, every day of my life. I’ll love you. I will love you no matter what happens. I’ll love you. I know I love you. You and I are in love. It is destiny, we are friends for life, I love you.

I want you to be happy my love. Yes, why don’t you travel and see the world? Why not move to Africa and work? I will always be here for you. I want the family to be happy. I care a lot about you. I want to hold you tight, keep you warm. I want your life to be wonderful, and even more wonderful because of me.

I am happy that you are away from me. Yes, we are close friends. We have achieved a wonderful depth in our love, so much that you feel like my sister, or brother or something like that. I want you to be happy and our friendship is vital. We can work together, be friends together forever.

I’m a little sorry that the romance ended in our relationship. That we are such wonderful friends is amazing, but I really hoped that we would continue to be passionate. We walked away from that passion we had when we met. Maybe we should have spent more time playing. I will love you always, my love and my friend, forever.

The beauty of this love is that it honors. Honor individuality. You honor yourself, this love is based on independence. It is the domain of pain, fear, the master of the self-created ego that demands spiritual or personal actualization. People at this level of love are always alone, despite being convinced that they can love unconditionally. Here there is simply no surrender.

The Fifth Kingdom of Love – Devotion

I love you. Deep in my heart I knew that one day I would find you. I knew there was a lover, somewhere, whose life mission, whose life passion would intertwine with mine to create something magnificent on this earth. We are like two musicians whose separate life purpose is quadrupled in value together.

We will fulfill our mission in life together. You bring gifts and I bring gifts, and together our greatest calling will be to share them with the world. I deeply love you; I celebrate the four kingdoms of love with you, and now, this, our purpose in life.

This is more than me, this is more than you, this is sacred, our purpose together. We can do what we love in life and share that journey together. Thank you for opening your heart and your life to me. We are united by something more than a contract of intimacy and love; we are bound by our commitment to something greater than both. I dedicate my love to you, I know that this way we will give what we were born to give. My love is eternal, thank you.

This relationship seems to lack the physical growl and arousal of lovebirds in love. But these two people love each other because they live, work and share the journey of life together. They must be careful to ensure that they do not get carried away by life and forget those lower levels of love that are required as a basis for it.

The sixth kingdom of love: inspired

I love you. Oh still of the night, let my mind calm down, my soul be content, let my love become one with yours. We were two, we are one. We bond on all levels, from the physical and romantic to the emotional and fantastic. But above all, we join the light.

I walk with you, no matter where you go. I sleep with you no matter what you know. I am with you, always, awake or asleep; this is my eternal love. More than a promise, it is real. I know your breath, I know your heart. I am not far away, I am in your thought, in your kingdom, we are one and we are tied.

Know me my love and you will know yourself. Immerse yourself each day in excitement and challenge and anytime you choose, you will find me. Choose love and here I am. It is a step further, but more real than you think. Let me hug you without arms, let me touch you without sound, look at me without eyes, I am you, we are one, in love.

There is no me, me or you at this level of love. It is a rare relationship that reaches this level. Too many distractions, dragged into lower realms by the ego, by fear and the search for God. This level of love is only for those who are willing to jump into something sacred and make their relationship the pinnacle of their spiritual and religious journey. Religious and guru-worshiping people cannot reach this level of love in relationship.

The seventh kingdom: unconditional love

I love you. Empty. I can’t know the time. I love you. Empty. I cannot know the space. You are not in shape, although I know your love. You are not in the sound, although I hear your call. We are one soul, one love, one now.

Beyond the realms where voices speak, we are more united than lovers who cry. We sit without mind; we sit in that time and we get to know each other. I know you when I see mountains so high, a lake so still, a wind so kind. I know you when nature reminds me, I am loved, I am loved, I am loved.

I look at the stars and there you are. I look at the moon; it’s not that far. I don’t look at nothing, at the beauty of everything, and there you are, not so far away. Invisible, I can see you in the beauty of the simplest world. Never that far. Never that far.

The third mind, the soul, the human spirit does not know the sense of self, other, good or evil. He is mesmerized by the beauty of existence and thus beyond the limit of distraction. The glimpse of infinity is found in this realm of love. Lovers rise for seconds to this place in orgasm. The sacred relationship holds that it is the most powerful truth.

Synopsis of Chapter in Sacred Love, a book about relationships that last forever.