The search for a soulmate: reality and illusion

Marriage is one of the oldest institutions created by man. An old proverb says: “Marriages are made in heaven and consummated on earth. “It is widely believed that God creates human beings in pairs from the same soul and that everyone has a soulmate in this world. True love consists in discovering your soulmate in this world. Therefore, for each person, there is a unique soul mate.And it is the destiny of the person to search for their soul mate.

The concept of a soulmate is quite romantic and interesting, since every person who falls in love feels that they have discovered their soulmate. Lovers believe they are made for each other or they are two bodies and one soul.

Thus, people often refer to love as an act of union of souls.

However, all love may not lead to soul union, as only soulmates of soulmates can unite. This concept is explained in the most beautiful way in the book “Flange“from the world famous author Paulo Coelho in the following words

And when people think of reincarnation, they always come across a very difficult question: if at first there were so few people on the face of the Earth, and now there are so many, where did all those new souls come from?

The answer is simple.

In certain reincarnations, we split in two. … Our souls divide in two, and those new souls in turn transform into two and thus, in a few generations, we are scattered over a large part of the Earth … And that process of finding ourselves is called Love. Because when a soul divides, it always divides into a male part et a female part.

This is how the Book of Genesis explains it: Adam’s soul was split in two and Eve was born from him.

In every life We feel the mysterious obligation to find at least one of those kindred souls. The Greater Love that separated you is pleased with the Love that unites you again.

It is for this reason that everyone seems to be taking care of the special person in their life who is their soul mate.

Soulmate identification

The concept of soul mate is so popular in the world that it can be found in practically all civilizations. The most difficult problem, however, seems to be soulmate identification.

The feeling of love is the most popular method of finding a soul mate. When a man and a woman fall in love, their soul seems to unite and they behave like two bodies and one soul. In the book Brida, Paulo Coelho writes

You could tell your soulmate by the light in their eyes, and since time began, that’s how people have recognized their true love. The Tradition of the Moon used a different process: a kind of vision that showed a point of light on the left shoulder of your soulmate.

People very sincerely try to find their soul mates out of love. However, most people fall out of love sooner rather than later. That is why love is often called blind. Ambrose Bierce called love madness,

“Love is a temporary insanity that is cured by marriage “.

The fact is, most people who find the deepest love in their beloved rarely sustain it for their entire lives, as evidenced by rising divorce rates in the modern world.

The increase in the divorce rate

Most people are disappointed in their love as they soon discover that the person they loved is not their soul mate. This has led to an increase in divorce rates, especially in the Western world. According to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, “50% of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages in the United States end in divorce.

However, the statistics tell only part of the story, as most people are now so suspicious of the success of their marriage that they prefer to live for years and even have children before marriage. Only when they are absolutely sure that they are in love do they decide to get married. However, the marriage soon ended in divorce, as statistics reveal.

Does it mean that most people cannot find their soul mate?

Or does it mean that there is something wrong with our soulmate perception?

We also wonder if the soul mate really exists or is it simply an illusion created by our ancestors to ensure that people do not divorce believing that their marriages are made in heaven. So once you are married, divorcing your spouse becomes a sin in many traditions. Since most people are afraid of committing sins, marriages survived in the past.

However, after man began to choose his loved one by falling in love, they soon discovered that love does not really exist except in the romance novel or spiritual literature.

What the scriptures say about marriage

Marriage is one of the most secret institutions of humanity. In India, Hindu marriages are still solemnized using the mantras of the “Rig Veda”, the oldest scripture of mankind written more than three thousand years before the birth of Christ. In Hindu scriptures, marriages are considered unbreakable in this life and go beyond the present life up to seven lives.

The institution of marriage in India has stood the test of time. Even in modern times, when the Western world is struggling to reduce divorce rates, in India the divorce rate is much lower than 1% despite having similar divorce provisions in law to those that exist in the Western world.

The most interesting fact about Indian marriage is that about 90% of marriages are “arranged” by the boy’s and girl’s parents rather than by infatuation. Most of the time, the guys haven’t even seen the girl. Even if they have seen each other, they can hardly be known as they are for a very short time in the presence of their parents and other family members. However, almost all marriages survive and most couples fall in love during their lifetime.

The concept of love and marriage

To understand the design of love, one has to refer to the Bible dealing with the concept of love and marriage in its first chapter of Genesis (21-24).

Then the LORD God made the man sleep soundly; and while he slept, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed the place with meat. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib that he had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones

and flesh of my flesh;

she will be called ‘woman’,

because she was taken from man. ”

That is why a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and they will become one flesh.

Thus, nature has divided the human species into male and female. In the Indian scriptures, God is also called as the Universal Soul (Paramtama) because He is the source of all individual people’s souls. Therefore, in each person lives the same soul that is the soul of God, since no soul has its individual and independent existence.

The soulmate illusion

Therefore, it may be futile to search for a soul that is especially meant for the person, since all souls are the same. The only difference is that the soul of man and woman are complementary to each other just like the proton and electron particles that are equal and opposite to each other.

The connection between different souls is only through the Soul of the World or God that connects each person like a thread joins the flowers to make a garland.

Therefore, the secret of love is in the love of God. Once a person loses faith in God, there is no way that he can maintain the connection with any other soul. That is why faith has emerged as the most important element to remain in love and marriage. Is well said “The family that prays together stays together”.

No god no love

It is said that love is God or God is love because love and God are two names of the same reality. The love that most people fall into is also real, since God has created attraction between man and woman to fulfill their spiritual destiny. Only by the union of the body, a new life is created. In the same way, due to the union of the soul, love is born.

Love, like any living born, is born and grows by itself. At first, love may be physical, but gradually it evolves into the state of mind and soul so that its ultimate destiny of being one with God can be realized.

It is for this reason that all love based on physical attractions begins to diminish unless the spouses relationship evolves from the physical stage to the stage of mind and soul. The union of the body must grow to become the union of the mind, which means that lovers must soon become friends. Friends have little or no physical component. Friendship has to gradually become spiritual when soul union is achieved between lovers. So the union of the soul has to become spiritual union with God.

However, people do not accept the change in the nature of love as if some people cannot reconcile the growth of their child. They feel the loss of physical desire as the loss of love, for they identify love with physical attraction.

This leads to the search for a new soul mate and the search continues until the very last stretch when they finally realize that there is no soul mate.

However, those who have faith gradually transform into spiritual being along with their soul mates passing through the stage of body, mind, soul and spirit (God).

True soul mate

The soulmate concept is real. However, there is no uniqueness in the soulmate, since all people have the same soul that is part of God. Therefore, one can find his soulmate and love in most people as long as they have faith in God. The only way to stay in love is to have faith and accept love in all its forms like lust, friendship, and spirituality, as the ultimate destiny of every soul is to become one with God. Physical love is just the beginning of the journey. Soulmate is someone who not only helps you reach your destiny, but also travels together towards the realization of this density.