Starting a New Relationship – Dating Advice for Women in their 40s

If you’re a single woman in your 40s and you’ve recently started dating a great guy who you think might be the man for you, congratulations!

You have successfully navigated to meet him and have the first date and a few more. Perhaps the two of you have gotten over the initial small talk and have begun discussing a relationship together. Now what?

First of all, now that you’re 40, remember that you have all the time in the world. There is no need to rush towards exclusivity. Before you commit to a relationship with this great guy, ask yourself, “Am I ready to get out of the dating pool?”

Before you retire from the “after 40” dating scene, you need to make sure you’ve done a few things to be sure of what you’re doing.

How many mature men have you considered?

Have you met and dated at least 10 men in the last year? If you’re close to that number, that’s fine. 10 is just a guide. It is not a strict requirement.

What types of men over 40 have you dated?

Also, have you allowed yourself to consider some very different men than the ones you dated when you were in your 20s or 30s? Now that she is 40 years old, some of her husband’s requirements might still be the same as when he was younger. However, their order of priority may be different.

Let me give you an example. If you’re now a divorced, single mom, then you’re not looking for great potential parenting material. Your children, hopefully, still have their father. What you are looking for now is a man who is a good stepfather. A good stepfather is usually more of a part-time job than a full-time job, unless your children’s father is no longer around. This is just to illustrate how your life is different now than it was when you were in your 20s.

Does your man have time to share with you?

Plus, now that you’re 40, you have an established career. You may not be looking for a man with huge earning potential because now you have that financial security and status yourself! What does that mean for you now for your mate selection after 40? Naturally, you want a man who is financially stable. You also want a man who has enough time and outside interests to share with you and be an interesting life partner, right?

Now that you’ve considered what you want in a relationship, and if you’re answering yes to most of these questions, then yes, by all means, agree to be exclusive! When the two of you begin a relationship, remember to share both fun nights out and daily activities of life, like shopping together. Have fun and let me know how it goes.