My ex boyfriend won’t text me back! Here is your next step

You’ve been dealing with so much since the breakup, haven’t you? You have to juggle sadness, loneliness, and the apprehension that comes from not knowing what the future holds. You miss your ex and sometimes you feel compelled to tell them, don’t you? Maybe it’s in the form of phone call after phone call or maybe you share your innermost feelings in text messages with him. Regardless, you’ll probably regret it shortly after doing it. In the case of texting, there’s always a sinking feeling in your stomach when you don’t respond. Dealing with an ex boyfriend who ignores your text messages is not easy to do. Internally you feel a whole range of emotions, from disappointment to anger. All are to be expected, but how you respond to his refusal to respond may determine exactly what will happen between the two of you in the future.

Every time a woman says, “my boyfriend won’t text me back,” she’s lowering her own self-esteem. She’s risking her emotions for a man who doesn’t have the decency to even acknowledge her. Nothing hurts like being in love with someone who pretends you don’t exist. It’s actually even more emotionally heartbreaking when that person turns out to be your ex-boyfriend. You know that he is capable of loving you because he did many things at once. Now their relationship has deteriorated to the point that he doesn’t even make an effort to respond. That is the reason why you have to stop for a moment and think clearly about what you are doing before you send him another text.

The next step you should take if he repeatedly ignores your texts is to stop sending them! I cannot stress this enough. You must break the cycle that you have created for yourself. You send him a message, anxiously await a response, a day goes by and you hear nothing and you sink into a vat of depressive feelings. You get mad at yourself for doing it and swear you won’t do it again, but you do. It’s completely understandable why you do it. You love him and you don’t want to lose the opportunity to have a future with him. That’s why you have to change your pattern of behavior and show your ex that you are no longer that lonely and scared girl who is going to chase him non-stop.

If you feel like you don’t have the willpower to stop texting your ex boyfriend, delete his contact information from your phone. I realize this feels drastic, but it’s for your own good. You will be much less tempted to contact him if his number is not reachable. I know you probably have his number memorized along with his date of birth and his favorite color, but you have to do whatever it takes to stop texting him. Deleting your number is truly more symbolic than anything else. You will prove to yourself that you are stronger than your weakest emotions.

Once you’ve done that, it’s time to shift your focus to your own life and what you can do right now to find happiness. Consider this time an emotional vacation. Do your best to let go of all the negative emotions you’ve associated with the breakup and instead look to the future. Focus not on how you want your relationship to be as you go along, but rather on how you want your life to be in general. Is there a professional goal that you have not yet achieved? Have you always wanted to try a new hobby and just didn’t have the time? Now is when you should dive into the things you really want for yourself, not for yourself as part of a potential match with your ex.

Give yourself a few weeks to get over what happened with you and your ex. During that time, do what you can to resist the urge to text him. You should also keep in mind to avoid him in person and avoid sending him emails or contacting him on any social networking sites. You’re taking an “ex boyfriend break,” so make sure you stay out of his life. Once some time has passed, then you can logically decide what you want for your life. Put yourself and your needs first. It’s the most important thing.