Moment of clarity

While talking to my good friend the other day, he mentioned this ‘moment of clarity’ that he seems to always experience when having sex. When he said that, I laughed because I could imagine this moment of clarity in my mind. Now I cannot speak for all men, but the few I know have experienced this brief enlightenment. Some of you may be lost and wondering what the heck is he talking about! Well I’m talking about the first 30-60 seconds right after a man ejaculates. That moment is very important; The thoughts and questions that run through a man’s mind during that period of time are as clear as they will ever be!

Through conversation with some people, the questions and thoughts between them were different but they all led to similar conclusions. They went something like this:

1. What the heck am I doing here? Man, he’s not even my type!

2. How did I get into this bed? Or better yet, how do I get out of this bed ?!

3. Should I break up with her now or just wait a few more days?

4. Now I know I have a really good girl at home.

5. I really love being with her.

The first and second thoughts listed above were very common among single men and those who weren’t. Since most men want to get their physical pleasure first and then reflect on their current situation; It is almost impossible for these two thoughts not to cross your mind after having sex. Just to be clear; The questions do not arise because of any guilt one may be experiencing! On that note, we really don’t want to hug you, hug you, and talk about our potential future together; we want to get out of there as quickly as possible. I mean, did you really think there was a relationship?

Uncomfortable? Umm … yeah!

Awkward is caught sneaking out of her bed and then asked to go back to bed! It’s awkward asking if we’re dating, when you’re thinking about your girlfriend wondering where the hell you are. It’s awkward to be told that I love you, when you really want to tell her that your original plan was to break up with her before having sex, but you failed to execute the plan! I mean these are the questions most men have trouble giving true answers when asked at a ridiculous moment!

You see, that moment is so clear to us that we actually get shocked during that moment of deep thought. Everything seems so good and so bad that even if we want to act, we can’t! So we leave the confrontation for another day, another time and another place; instead of dealing with the drama that we don’t really need in our lives. However, from time to time, we realize that number 4 is true, but only after the fact, when it is too late! I guess that’s one of the sweet secrets that some of us never tell our partner even though we get married and tell everyone how faithful we have been. At the end of the day, no. 5 is the one that every woman should expect her man or soon-to-be man to be thinking about for 30-60 seconds after their final orgasm.

Moment of clarity that’s what my friend called it! I’m sure every guy reading this article is thinking “damn, my mind seems to be so much clearer at the time”. Unfortunately, 60 seconds is not a long time! So I guess we’ll have to keep adjusting each time those 60 seconds come up. But for some of us, that moment of clarity comes a little before the start of 30 seconds … I guess that’s what we call an advantage!

PS Ladies, do you also have this moment of clarity? Just wondering …