Improve attraction, chemistry and the spark in your dates!

You CAN control the level of attraction and chemistry created in your dating and interactions with the opposite sex, at least to a certain extent. There are numerous factors and components involved in creating the attraction (as well as destroying it), so it’s very smart to understand how it works and what those critical components are, so you can control the things in your control and maximize the level of attraction and connection that is created in any given situation. And the thing is, physical appearances actually have very little to do with attraction and chemistry.

Right now, but I’m going to share with you 5 tips on how to control just one of those components of attraction, which happens to be one of the most powerful: the atmosphere and setting of your interaction/date. There are several key components of atmosphere that are at play, whether you realize it or not, that powerfully influence your attraction and “chemistry” with someone, either positively or negatively. And the good news is that these 5 factors are things YOU have control over! So why not make them work for you?

1. The Atmosphere and the Environment:

Set the Atmosphere and Setting, or “Mood” in Your Favor: If you have control over the setting and atmosphere in which you’re meeting someone for the first time… DO IT and be strategic about it! 5 things you can do to set up or control your environment to create the most amount of attraction are:

* Dark, dimly lit places and rooms with candles.

* Places with “sexy” colors, decoration and lighting – Like reds, hot pinks and fuchsias, electric blues. (Check out the photos below for examples!) There’s a reason these fancy clubs in Las Vegas are so hooked. Well, I guess there are multiple reasons.

* Alcohol on the premises. Now hear me out before there’s a ruckus, I’m not suggesting you go exuberant or jump back on the wagon (or is it “off the wagon”? RE: Seinfeld episode) if you’re a recovering alcoholic, but I’ll call I will call things by name and I will say that, in moderation, alcohol generally helps increase your odds by relaxing and calming your pre-date nerves, creating more flow in (and therefore less awkward) conversations, and speeding up the conversation. linkage. Drink responsibly.

* Opt for unique, lesser-known hole-in-the-wall spots instead of generic chain restaurants. Doing some research and taking her (or him) to a lesser-known place they’ve never been is worth it, as it adds to the excitement for them and the wow factor of going somewhere they’ve never been before. Just make sure YOU have properly parsed it beforehand.

* Sit close to each other and at right angles instead of sitting directly across from each other, if you can control it. Studies have shown that sitting in the kitty’s corner creates more attraction than sitting directly facing each other, and also allows for more intimacy. Also, if your server takes you to a table that looks like it belongs on King Arther’s deck, try to veto it and ask if they have anything smaller available so you don’t have to yell to pass the salt.

* Background music: Play soft music in the background, or go to a place that does, rather than being in an atmosphere that is completely silent. On the other hand, the music should not be so loud that you have to shout at each other; that’s not good either.

So, in short, boys and girls…avoid the popular chain restaurants open and bright with overhead lighting, no alcohol and kids running around…Unique, dark and cozy restaurants with candlelight, privacy and flowing carafes of wine – WELL!