How to build a deep emotional connection with a woman

The best way to build attraction with a woman is to build a bridge to her emotions. Women do not respond rationally to attraction, in any case, they can reflect and try to rationalize the attraction they feel, but the attraction is always emotional NEVER logical. I already mentioned several characteristics in men like confidence and charisma that create attraction in women, but in this article I will focus on developing DEEP attraction, or in other words, a deep emotional connection with a woman. This is the type of attraction that is long lasting and not superficial.

To get this kind of connection with a woman, you have to let her know more about you than meets the eye. This is where an absolutely essential skill is required: the ability to tell a good story. Yes, the fastest way to create an emotional connection is to tell a good story. A good story is one that builds suspense and intrigue, while also highlighting the compelling qualities you possess, such as spontaneity, adventure, initiative, drive, and creativity. In essence, without telling a woman that you are all of these things, you SHOW her by painting a picture with a relationship-building story.

What should these stories be about? They could be anything that portrays you in a unique and compelling way. It could be about your travel adventures or a time when you overcame some adversity. Whatever you do, make sure you don’t brag—your main goal is to arouse emotions with a compelling story, and to show (not tell) that you’re the kind of person who has emotions in your life.

Sharing a story also enables a very powerful human response, called RECIPROCITY. It has been well known to marketers for years that humans are programmed to want to give something back to someone who willingly gave them something. That’s why you see so many offers in the mail where something is sent to you for free in the hope that you’ll eventually sign up for the offer. So when you share a story, you trigger a natural human reaction in the woman to share a story with you. She will feel that she is forced to tell you things about herself, which will make her feel closer to you. She’ll rationalize that she must really have feelings for you if she’s telling you so much about herself. Remember, share a story, and then ask the woman, “Do you have a story where you did something like that spontaneously?” Watch it open up and you’ll start to be on your way.

Here’s another tip in addition to the above: Follow several bold and intriguing stories with one story that makes you appear vulnerable. This is called the history of vulnerability. This paints you in a more complete three-dimensional picture. If the woman has been intrigued by her previous stories, she will respond emotionally to her story of loss or hardship. Women are programmed to care for those who are hurt and who care about them. The point of this story is to let your guard down and let the woman see a softer and more sensitive side of you. Women want to be in a relationship with a strong, confident but sensitive man. They want a leader, but someone who understands them and with whom they are safe with their emotions.

Important note: regardless of what you say, never, ever EVER lie to your wife. I’ve seen various “pick-up” gurus talk about different routines to open up a conversation with a girl and get her interested. These gurus advocate the use of tried and true arguments, whether or not they are true, simply because they have been shown to work. For example, one is called the “jealous girlfriend” opener, where the guy will approach the girl and ask for a “girly opinion” on the dilemma his friend is having, whereby his friend’s new girlfriend discovered photos of him. an ex and wants her boyfriend to throw them out. The girl will give her opinion on what her friend should do, and since this is an intriguing story involving drama and relationships, it will usually lead to a more in-depth conversation. However, what happens when, two weeks later, the girl asks again about the “jealous girlfriend” and you have no idea what she is talking about? So you have to follow a lie with another lie. The whole thing is just useless and stupid. Unless all you want is superficial relationships, NEVER lie to a woman. That way you won’t have to remember to cover your tracks.

Learn to tell a good and TRUE story and you will find that you begin to bond and connect with the woman on much deeper emotional levels. Good luck!