Get back together: the best advice

Even the best advice on getting back together is never entirely black and white. Every situation is different and something that might work for this person may not necessarily work for that person. What is required is a multi-streaming approach. When getting back together, the best advice is to try everything!

There are many things you can try to get your ex back, but there will usually be one or two things that will work better for you than others.

The first and easiest thing to figure out is whether or not they really want to be together. It may sound obvious, but you both need to spend some alone time thinking about this seriously. Most of the time, the need to be with someone again is a spur of the moment, fueled by overwhelming emotion.

Something you loved and cherished is now gone and it’s natural not to want to let it go. This can sometimes be a blessing in disguise. Even people in abusive relationships can be in love and sometimes can’t see that staying in that situation is bad for them. But if you have come to the conclusion that you are right for each other, there are things that can help.

No matter what the reason for your breakup is, the first thing you might try is to see how you are behaving. If begging, pleading, and putting yourself down don’t work, then stop doing it! Sometimes thinking outside the box is the way to go. Think about what might catch your eye. In order for them to want to be with you again, you must have their attention.

Once you have their attention, you need to find a way to remind them why they should be with you. Think about how you were when you met. Maybe you could try doing something that reminds your ex of the parts of your personality that she fell in love with.

Treat them how you would like to be treated. Some good manners and respect will go a long way when you try to get back together.

When you do get back together, the best advice that can be given is to trust your gut. If something feels wrong, then it probably is. Get up, dust yourself off and try something else. If the person you’re getting back together with is worth it, at least he’ll see how hard you try. If you keep trying, you can be sure that they will eventually recover.