Does your husband really feel remorse after an affair?

One of the most painful things a married woman can go through is learning that her husband had an affair. Outside of the whirlwind of emotions that you find yourself going through, one of the basic things that most women who have been cheated on want to know is that her husband feels remorse for his infidelity. So how do you know if your husband is really feeling remorse after an affair?

For starters, most men are guarded when it comes to their emotions, so it stands to reason that you wonder if he’s really sorry after his affair. Is he really sorry or is he just sorry he got caught? Finding out which side of the fence your husband falls on is the first step in deciding whether or not to give him another chance after the affair.

There are many arguments that can be made as to why your marriage deserves a second chance, but I see it in very simple terms. When infidelity occurred in my own marriage, it came down to two things. First of all, my husband and I still had an enormous amount of love for each other. Second, we both wanted to give our son a fair chance to grow up with both parents in the house. Those two things were more than enough for us to do the job of fixing our marriage. Once we got over the initial pain, we were able to get to the root of our problems. That was the key element that saved our marriage.

If you discover that you and your husband have a similar reason for trying to save your marriage, there’s still one more thing you need to find out. There are many men out there who get caught up in chasing and conquering other women. This is just a fact of life. You need to find out whether or not your husband is a perpetual “hunter” or if there is an underlying problem that can be addressed and help fix your marriage.

How am I supposed to know which side of the fence my husband falls on?

With the exception of perhaps your mother, there is no one in the world who knows your husband better than you. After an affair, your spouse may feel like a complete stranger, but that’s the emotional reaction. Even in cases where a woman is severely cheated on by her spouse, that does not mean that she no longer knows anything about the man she married.

Did she suspect that something was going on with her husband on some level? If she can answer that question honestly, I’m sure she’ll discover that, on some small level, she suspected something was wrong. My honest guess would be that you knew it before you could even admit it.

Armed with that information, you can be sure that you can still trust your instincts when it comes to your husband. You knew what was going on before you just didn’t confront it. If you’re like me, there’s no way you’re ever going to turn a blind eye to the warning signs of an affair. All of that should help you remove any doubt when you ask yourself, “Is he really sorry about his affair?”

What if I’m not convinced that he’s sorry?

One of the biggest sources of unhappiness in relationships in general is expecting your spouse or partner to be something they are not. People need to realize that NO ONE CAN CHANGE ANOTHER HUMAN BEING, just because he married you doesn’t mean he’s capable of being the man or woman you expect him to be.

If you don’t feel like your husband has genuine remorse about his affair, then it may be best to let him do what he wants to do because he won’t change until he’s ready to change, and even if it sounds bad. that can be never.

“I believe in the power of love”, “I am a hopeless romantic”. Those are great things in theory, but in real life they lead to heartbreak. The cold, hard fact is that you can sit at home and pray to whomever you pray to every day and night, and your husband will still be who he is.

When your spouse is having an affair, you are one of the most painful and confusing things a married person will go through, but it doesn’t have to end your marriage. If you and your husband are willing to put in the work, then I know firsthand how a marriage can come out of adversity stronger and healthier.