Cougar Dating Stats – Could You Be Next?

As I research the issue of older women dating younger men, I am a little surprised to see some statistics flowing “across the pond” in the UK, as well as here in the US. Getting the following from BBC and NBC Network News, I felt it was important to share it with you. It seems that the “craze” of the cougars is more than a simple mania. It seems that older women are also going beyond simply establishing control of their careers. They are branching out to unabashedly embrace their passion for life and enjoy it with a man who can keep up with them and stimulate them on and off the boudoir. For those naysayers who tell me that a younger man is “just looking for sex” and won’t seriously consider marrying an older woman (I hear this more from older men who feel threatened by these youngsters), these stats will be an eye-opener. open?

30% of all women meet the requirements of being a Cougar woman.
35% of women who are not currently dating prefer younger men.
34% of women over 40 date younger men.
17% of women in their 50s prefer men in their 40s.
25% of older British women are married to younger men.
(Source: BBC Documentary: “Sugar Mummies.” The Today Show, NBC, November 21, 2009)

Older men who are threatened by younger men intruding on their territory say that younger men only want older women for sex and financial security. If you look at the main reasons young women date older men, it can be argued that they want older men for financial security. Older men want younger women for sex. Older men claim that marriages between young men and older women will not last. They may last as long as marriages between older men and younger women. The difference is that the sex will be better for the older woman; Or as one Cougar told me, “My ex-husband was 70 when we got divorced. If I’m going to have sex with a man, it’s going to be a man whose skin still looks good on him.”

I guess if it’s okay for older men to be loved by younger women for what they can provide, why shouldn’t it be okay for older men to love older women for the same? I guess it bothers these men to know that older women have more to offer a younger man: maturity, confidence, sexiness, sexuality, financial stability, outlook, and an older woman’s libido is more like that of a younger man. . This cannot necessarily be said about the older man; Unless, of course, he’s taking Viagra.

Older women know more than they want to and don’t play the games that younger women do. I consult with thousands of men and women and they regularly tell me that bonding with each other is far more satisfying on many levels (not just sex, but it sweetens the equation) than relationships with men their age.

Older women say their eyes wander when a handsome young man walks by and they date someone their own age or older. They look at their dining roommate and think, “Will I run to the drug store to buy Depends for him in 5 years?” They look at the deep wrinkles in his skin, notice the yellow/gray of his teeth and receding hairline, wonder if he’ll be able to keep up with them on the hiking trail or dancing until dawn, and then their mind wanders. the man 20 years younger who passionately kissed them in the doorway at midnight while they were walking along the boardwalk.

They tell me they sometimes wonder why they resisted dating younger men for so long. They were discounted because of their age. It wasn’t until they started to really get to know some of these young men that they realized that many of them have the maturity and wisdom of older men and gravitate toward older women with whom they feel they have something in common.

Choosing a younger man to date is no different than choosing a man your own age or older to date. You still have the same criteria, you just look for it in a younger package. Even a 50-year-old man can be immature, obtuse, and boring. What a man is at 50, he was at 25, so don’t think that just because a man is younger he will qualify.

But once you challenge your own ageism bias and date a few younger men, you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how much you have in common. The right young man for you will be sensitive, funny, talkative, a good listener, a strong shoulder, and offer you the devotion and passion you may have longed for but couldn’t find in someone whose attitudes were formed in the ’60s and ’70s.

Who knows? You might end up with another very happy Cougar stat!