17 Golden Tips to Save and Restore Your Relationship/Marriage

If you are reading this article, you are most likely in a relationship or marriage that is currently not going well. If you have a feeling that a divorce or relationship break-up could happen anytime soon, you’ve come to the right place.

I wrote this article to give you a lot of tips to avoid such divorce or relationship breakup. Problems often seem intractable, but in reality it rarely happens that a relationship is irreparably damaged. So, do you want to save your marriage and be happy with your partner again? Then quickly read through my 17 golden tips below.

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Golden tip #1: Name the problem

Before you start doing anything else, it’s important to identify the problems in your relationship. This can be frustrating, but it is an essential step. If you disagree with the nature of the problem, the arguments and accusations will only increase. So first name the problem.

Golden tip #2: be open and honest with each other

The second tip is also about a very difficult but essential step. To make a serious effort to save your relationship or marriage, it is important to be open and honest with your partner. Often a lack of trust is the reason the relationship is at a low point. Honesty is the best policy, so start now to save your relationship.

Golden tip #3: Go to couples therapy with your partner

Both naming the problem and fully opening up to the other is difficult. Therefore, it is highly recommended to seek support where necessary to save your relationship or marriage. For many couples, it is therefore a good option to go to couples therapy with their partner.

Golden tip #4: listen to your partner’s wishes and respond to them

A good marriage or a good relationship cannot exist without good communication. They have probably been communicating less recently, or at least unpleasantly. However, good and positive communication is the key to the heart. Learn to listen carefully and respond to your partner’s wishes. Your partner, therefore, will listen to you more.

Golden tip #5: Try to separate actions and emotions

In an emotional mood, people often say things that they don’t mean at all. If your relationship isn’t going well, emotions are likely to run high more often. In order to effectively save your relationship, therefore, it is important to separate actions and emotions.

The way to do this is to stop making decisions when you are emotional.

If you are feeling emotional, you can clearly indicate here, according to tip #2, that you are currently too emotional to make sound decisions. At such a time, I advise you to withdraw. When your intense emotions have subsided, you can pick up the thread again.

Golden tip #6: Give yourself time and space

What many people find difficult in a relationship is that sometimes a relationship can be quite oppressive. And believe me, even if you already have years of relationship experience, this is still hard. A common complaint is that people don’t feel like they can still be themselves within the relationship.

Although this is very annoying, it is a problem that can certainly be fixed.

If you (or your partner) run into this problem, it’s important to give yourself some space. By taking some “me time” from time to time, you’ll feel better in your skin, which can save your relationship or marriage. Does your partner have a crazy hobby that you’re not a fan of? Allow your partner the freedom to practice this.

Golden tip #7: Show the other person that you have loving feelings

The best thing about a relationship is that you can overwhelm each other with declarations of love. You can really give the other person the feeling that you are the most important thing in the world to that person. Of course, not all falls in a relationship or marriage are caused by people who express their love too little. But it’s the reason the relationship doesn’t feel like it used to anymore.

Furthermore, the absence of declarations of love, romantic gestures and spontaneous romantic initiatives can also be an additional consequence of your other relationship problems. Try to put your partner in the spotlight on a regular basis. Surprise him with something that makes it clear how much you really care about your partner. This is how you can save your marriage!

Golden Tip #8: Be Forgiving

It doesn’t matter what happened between you. If you have decided that you want to continue with your partner, you will have to forgive him for what happened. It doesn’t matter if it was a fierce argument or if there really was adultery.

Only by adopting an attitude of forgiveness can you give your relationship with your partner a fair chance.

Although sometimes it can be difficult to forgive someone, it is the best way to take a step towards your partner. This way you show that you want to do everything possible to make your relationship a real success.

Golden tip #9: Compliment each other

In one of the golden tips above, I already mentioned the importance of surprising yourself with romantic gestures. However, you cannot declare your love for your partner every day in a theatrical way. That would seem strange and unbelievable in the long run. That’s why I want you to give your partner compliments on a regular basis, so it doesn’t matter as much if it’s compliments.

Golden tip #10: Make yourself vulnerable

You can only speak well of your feelings if you are vulnerable. When you talk to your partner, it’s not just about your side of the story, it’s about your partner’s as well. When you are vulnerable, it is also a sign to your partner that you are willing to work together on a solution.

If you’re not vulnerable, this can seem pretty arrogant quickly. Unfortunately, I have seen this go wrong with many couples over the years. Believe me: when partner A gets the idea that partner B is arrogant, then you are really far from home. After all, it takes a lot of extra time to resolve the newly created problem and save the relationship.

Golden tip #11: Break the routine

The so-called ‘routine’ is one of the reasons many marriages and relationships are falling apart. At the beginning of their relationship, they are still in love and the trees seem to grow to the sky. The longer you have a relationship, the more the feeling of falling in love disappears: it is about ‘loving’.

This is a real challenge for many people within the relationship.

If you and your partner are currently in that situation, it’s important to do something new for once. This allows you to break the daily routine.

Golden tip #12: Make the mission of saving your relationship your top priority.

If you find something really important, you should give it priority. Today everyone has a packed schedule. This makes it tempting to postpone matters that don’t have an exact deadline. However, the problems between you and your partner are important. That is why you have to make space and time to address this as quickly as possible and work on a solution.

Golden tip #13: Focus mainly on the positive aspects of your relationship

There is a reason they are together. It’s important that you tell yourself this often, and when you talk about your relationship with your partner (or other people), emphasize this often. People tend to focus on the negative, whereas, even when you have a fight, there’s often a lot of fun in it.

Golden tip #14: Get moving!

If your relationship or marriage is on the verge of breaking down, then you are probably dealing with an increased level of stress. The most effective way to get rid of your stress is to exercise. You can clear your head during exercise.

Golden tip #15: Make physical contact with your partner

Touching your partner can cause many positive things. First, touching your partner is a form of affection. In addition, touch has the following advantages:

– One touch often says more than a thousand words

– Touch can calm your partner in one go

– Touch ensures that the hormones of happiness are created.

Golden tip #16: Don’t let your own pride get in the way of solving your problems

As I mentioned earlier, it is important that you are vulnerable. That doesn’t mean you have to behave like a softy. But it is important that you know how to put aside your own pride to save the relationship or marriage. Many people find it hard to let go of their pride, but that’s just a sign of tremendous strength, not weakness.

Golden tip #17: Learn to love yourself

Finally, I would like to remind you that any attempt to save your relationship or marriage will be in vain if you don’t first learn to love yourself.