Women fake orgasm to soothe men’s sexual egos

Kinsey’s research revealed that some women have orgasms from masturbating alone. Previously, no one had any idea that women could orgasm. However, generations of men had no difficulty reaching orgasm from intercourse. The belief in a female orgasm with a lover is a modern day fantasy that reassures men of women’s continued willingness to offer sex.

Men say that they want to be good lovers, but all their assumptions are based on the fact that a woman can orgasm with a lover. This fantasy makes women pretend. Some women realize that a man’s sexual performance is vital to his emotional well-being. If a woman wants to give her lover the satisfaction of assuming that she, through intercourse or other means, has provided him with the stimulation she needs to reach orgasm, then she is forced to pretend.

The women learn that if a man cannot find release through intercourse and the feeling that he has satisfied his lover, his whole world falls apart. The problem with being honest about sex is that men want to have regular sex regardless of a woman’s much lesser interest. A man needs to be turned on and feel accepted in his sexual relationship. He relies on erotic arousals even if they are only in his head. So women fake orgasm to keep men happy.

Men seem to have an almost childish need to believe in their fantasies of arousing women. The woman, who loves men, has no heart to disappoint them. Even if women tell men that sex doesn’t give them the same pleasure, men just don’t get it. A man’s sexual ego means that throughout his life he can believe (despite all the evidence to the contrary) that the women in his life wanted sex as much as he ever did.

The fact that all animals in nature mate when the male mounts the female does not convince him. The fact that women have to be paid to have sex doesn’t convince him. The fact that women want a relationship, probably legal, to offer long-term sex does not convince him. A man never questions why it is the male role to keep a woman happy. This is because it is self-evident what a woman must do to keep a man happy. However, a man needs to believe that a woman wants sex as much as he does in order to be sure of a continuous and regular sexual outlet.

A man assumes that a woman should tell him what to do. It never seems to occur to men that women don’t know. Stimulation is fairly easy to provide once the person is aroused. The difficult subject is arousal. No one can name any female erotic arousal. If a woman is not enthusiastic about intercourse that does nothing to turn her on, a man takes it as a personal rejection. Instead of accepting that women don’t experience sexual pleasure like men do, his focus is on his concern for satisfying his own needs.

In some ways, men never grow up. Women have to face the deception of sex as soon as they lose their virginity. Rather than face their own fears, men pass on the taboo of sexual inadequacy to women. In addition to the other disadvantages of sex attributed to women (abortion, prostitution, and illegitimate children), women are also labeled frigid if they don’t fake an orgasm. It is totally insensitive for men to blame women for not enjoying the same pleasure that men get from sexual activity. This is like blaming a blind man because he can’t see a spectacular sight that you appreciate.

It’s cruel enough to promise someone that they can expect to experience something incredible that is, in reality, completely devoid of erotic arousal and physical stimulation. This is the disappointment women face if they approach intercourse with a head full of the fantasies our society promotes. To say that women can expect to experience exactly what men do from sex is propaganda spread by those who are trying to make money.

Most of the time, a woman is likely to only offer sex when a man puts in all the effort. A woman can offer pleasure to a man from time to time. She may also be willing to let him indulge her at times. A woman needs to be in the mood to be willing to give a man the time to do this. This is likely to happen sporadically and depends on many factors, such as the woman’s general state of happiness and the state of her relationship with her lover.

If sex is purely a shoving and grunting affair that is resolved quickly, a woman may need to provide little input. The average time a man lasts (from penetration to ejaculation) is only two minutes. But men who enjoy eroticism like to extend the time they spend having sex by offering foreplay. This makes sex more expensive for a woman. It’s not just the time involved, but also the need for a woman to spend more time being a part of the activity.

Faking orgasm provides an easy way for a woman to speed up sex and get it over with as quickly as possible. If a woman lies (faking an orgasm) to a man, he finds her enormously attractive. If she’s honest, he finds another woman. What do men expect? Some women find faking it humiliating and downright ridiculous. Supposedly, 50-80% of women fake it. Just because a woman doesn’t fake it doesn’t mean she has an orgasm. Many women feel humiliated at the thought of making all that ridiculous and unconvincing noise.

She knows how personal you’re going to take it when she can’t orgasm, and it makes her afraid to have sex because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings and then feel even more inadequate. (Sophie Martin 2013)