Nurturing discipline

Discipline even with young children is necessary, or you will have unruly children to deal with. They must learn right from wrong, but it is better to approach discipline in a caring, consistent but firm way. decide what is unacceptable to you and do not tolerate it. You are the adult, don’t let your child take over the house, even if their misbehavior is cute or funny, don’t laugh at them or they will enjoy the attention and the behavior will escalate. You will find some suggestions to prevent tantrums, start with any of the methods from the first days and it will be of great help to you.

Parents who lose control, yell, or insult their children will have discipline problems, they will learn to stay calm instead of getting angry. They are setting very bad examples, and as your child grows older, they will lose respect. The child will think of it as habitual parenting behavior and will treat their children similarly, thus recycling this failed parenting.

Method one or one is a great way to deal with resistance from young children, offering your choice of two alternatives. For example, which sock will we wear first, the left or the right? Which spoon will we use the blue or the shiny one? Young children want to show their independence and are frustrated, but do not have the language skills to explain, therefore they throw a tantrum. With practice, this will help prevent many situations. Make this a habit from the first days.

Discipline begins with understanding your child, communicating with him empathetically in an atmosphere where he feels safe to discuss his thoughts and problems when he is old enough, or in the meantime, vent his feelings and anger safely. They should know that you love them unconditionally no matter what, and that they feel safe. If, out of anger, your child says “I hate you”, find out what bothers him and makes him so angry. Understand that they are frustrated about something; don’t let me push your buttons.

At this young age, your child doesn’t know a better way to communicate his anger and frustration, and he may behave like a tornado. However, they are secretly frightened by their emotions and need your help, not anger, to calm down. I’m sure you’ve seen hysterical children sobbing in supermarkets, dragged along by bullied, stressed, and embarrassed parents.

I have already mentioned the one or the other method to distract and reduce the conflict, it really is a time saver with the little ones; If you get into the habit, it becomes second nature and laughter releases tension and makes it fun. Stay calm whatever happens and resist the yelling. Staying calm and speaking quietly will calm the child and calm him down. If necessary, take a deep breath or count to ten. You are the adult; Show anger control, and your child will gradually learn to do this too.

If when you were little your parents yelled at you, you may think that it is the best way to discipline a child, I prefer a softer approach, but with firm limits and coherence. Staying calm is a much more successful method and prevents a small incident from turning into a big event. It is important to set limits, which will change as your child grows. Older children can contribute ideas about rules and limits; if they feel heard, they are more likely to respect your wishes.

You are the adult and will have the last word. Be firm in the things that are important to you and consistent in your dealings. Children need to be clear about what is acceptable to you and what the limits are. Teach your child to behave the way you want by praising good behavior, not constant criticism, and leading by example; do not yell or get angry, and be respectful of others, behave with others with affectionate empathy and your children will have good guidelines to follow.

If you want to see what’s going on at home, watch young children play “Mummy’s and Daddy’s.” This is a game school favorite, you will get to see the child’s home life represented, with yelling, spanking, or some quiet, hands-on action.