He says I talk too much! How to handle this relationship problem

“He says I talk too much!” That has to hurt when it comes from the man you adore. Hearing him say that he talks more than he would like is painful. You feel embarrassed, confused, and even a little rejected. Most relationships have a bit of criticism, but when it comes to something so personal, it goes right to the heart. It also makes you wonder how much you should be talking about or what you should be talking about. It’s natural to feel self-conscious after hearing your boyfriend say this to you. It’s also concerning because he can’t help but think that it may be a deal breaker for him. It is important that you calm down and handle this in a very specific way. Doing so can improve your relationship.

If he says you talk too much, don’t read too much. You may be mentioning it for various reasons. One might be that you are so excited to tell him things that you are repeating your stories. We’ve all been guilty of this and for some people, especially men, it can be a bit irritating. Another reason he may have told you that you are talking too much is that you are literally monopolizing the conversation. If your man can’t say a word when you are together, he will feel unappreciated and unimportant and the way you handle it may be to lash out at you complaining about it.

Your initial reaction when he tells you that you talk too much may be to go completely silent. It is a way to defend and preserve yourself. You feel like if he complains about the amount you share, you shouldn’t share anything at all. It’s understandable why you would feel this way, but it’s not helpful. If you do this and stop talking altogether, he will label you as immature and unable to accept criticism. You cannot behave in this way and you should do your best not to allow your behavior to change too drastically.

Instead of going back so far, start sharing less. Open the conversation for more response. Ask them specific questions and then take their response as a guide to start a new discussion thread. Make sure you listen to what he is sharing so that you can encourage him to talk more by asking questions. If you take this approach to handling your complaint, you’ll find that you actually want him to talk more. When a woman starts sharing less and makes a man feel more important in the relationship, he wants her to share more and more. It is an effective approach that will help balance communication in your relationship.